Women live in the world of fantasy, but because they already exist in the real world. So when they go to online dating websites and imagine their ideal man it usually has no basis in any real guy they’ve ever met or seen. It’s typically a combination of fictional characters. You have no idea about the crazy crap going on in their heads. You see they have lives where they work boring jobs, deal with vomiting kids and give oral sex to fat slobs (now THAT’S some reality) and the logic of that says they are grounded in the real world. But they close that stuff off from their hearts. Their hearts are tied to their fantasies.

Having said that, you now have to make a decision; are you going to be truthful or are you going to make something up. I do believe it’s possible to be truthful, but I DON’T believe you can pour your true heart out at online dating websites. You have to think about all your qualities; good and bad and then reach for a thesaurus and start framing all your qualities in a Prince Charming template. Not a NICE GUY. They are not fantasizing about nice guys. They’re already bored and not looking to add more boring to their lives. They’re looking to add some salt to the meal. You’re supposed to be the salt! A profile that generates an emotional response from them is the way to go.

They want to believe that you COULD get into a fight on the street. They want to believe that you MIGHT shout at the car dealership if you find out he was trying to pull a fast one. They want to believe that you WILL cuddle in a gentle but manly way. Basically they want a dog. Yeah they want to believe that you WILL be good on the dance floor and that will translate into the bedroom too. But you’ve got to understand what you’re up against; you’re not competing with other guys you’re competing with a lifetime of fantasy. You are competing with men that do not exist AND men with qualities that melt away and change into other qualities depending on her mood. So have the emotions you want to generate already laid out-and THEN build your qualities around that outcome. Here are some tips.