You arrive at a site and you’re only “hot” and new for like a short time, so if you can hide your profile I would say do that first and find out who you want to approach first. First tier, second tier and THEN make your profile visible.

So which sites are “crappy.” Well, listen I’m not here to put anybody down. But you know, look around! I mean visit some sites, and look through the profiles. Pick about 10 sites and put them in order of who has the best profiles. Or put them in order according to price. Whatever your criteria, the online dating websites with the lowest numbers will be the practice sites. And maybe the dating websites you use won’t even officially BE dating sites.

Take for example Craigslist or MySpace. I know for a fact that MySpace can be used to for dating. I’ve been involved with several women from there. And some even accused ME of going to slow-they pretty much just wanted a sex hook-up. The only thing that might happen (and this can happen with regular online dating websites too) is that somebody from way too far away might contact you. I have an out of towner who sent me photos that were naked (but I’ll talk about that aspect of online dating later) and, you know, there was really nothing I could do about it. I mean, great, you’re naked now what? When they’re too far away it’s actually not a bad idea to cultivate them. You never know when you might need to head out to their town. Or the woman might be coming your way-this actually happened for me, she came within a hundred miles and I agreed to do the drive.

At any rate the reason you practice on low tier online dating websites is to get all your mistakes out of the way and to refine your profile and photo choices as best you can. So that by the time you get to the site you have the most hope for you’ve got your “game” together. If you can build a profile, as a man, where women contact YOU then you’re doing well. Because for the most part online dating is like real life; you are expected to make the first real move toward the women. You might get some small gestures-a lot of these dating websites have “nods” or “shoulder taps” and women tend to use these tools a lot. But in terms of creating a captivating profile, openers and follow-up, that’s something you have to make as solid as you can before you head into the big league.