There are many dark elements in both the paid and free online dating process. Some of the pitfalls are obvious like liars and dangerous people. But there are also some WEIRD things you might run into on online dating websites. Here is one of thosee dirty secrets I found: women who just want to waste your time. The quite honestly have no intention of meeting you or actually finding somebody to be in a relationship with. They just use the personals to build their ego. They’re single, they’re lonely, maybe they’ve been hurt or maybe they consider themselves ugly (although very few women use that term about themselves, so let’s just say maybe they have low self esteem). Or the worse one; they’re bored. A bored woman is a VERY dangerous thing. Most men don’t realize it, but I guarantee you; they’re more dangerous than an angry woman.

So to continue with my dating tip. For these type of women online dating websites are just a free tool. It’s just a fun distraction. They have no intention of following through. Window shopping. To these types just being there it IS a valid process. They went “out” and had interactions. It’s like looking through magazines, or going to stores with ZERO INTENTION OF BUYING. They’re saying this is what I would or would not get IF I was actually in the market. Women are shoppers-and sometimes they intend to buy and sometimes placing a personal ad is just to see how well they’d do on “the market.” It’s not always about finding a date. They just need to know they’re still desirable. By the way, by affirming their desirability you can have two kinds of results; you might move them from playing games to actually going on a date, or you can spend a lot of time puffing up the ego of somebody with no results.

A lot of it has to do with how they value themselves. Everybody judges themselves (and others). Usually they give scores of 1 through 10. Single people do this all day and night. And many women will usually interact with you on online dating websites if they think you’re a 6 and above. They really want an 8 or 9 and consider a 10 unrealistic. And “settling” isn’t a reflection on your score it’s a reflection on THEM. They don’t want to feel like they can only pull a 5 or below, because that means THEY’RE only a 5 or below. Sadly a lot of it will come down to your pictures. BUT, you can increase your score with the written word-so don’t give up.

So if you find yourself emailing somebody online through internet dating you need to move the situation to phone calls and personal meetings. If you get stuck in the email range you’ve got yourself a time waster. Or somebody that will talk on the phone but NOT meet in person. Read the situation, spot the con. And you don’t have to end it, but move it down your priority list from “serious” to “possible” women to date. You’ll save yourself a lot of time and frustration and this will increase your success with women online.